13 August 2009

You've gotta give 'em hope


It was my join and surprise to see on Facebook this afternoon that yesterday the President honored Harvey Milk.

The article talks about the connection of hope between Milk and Obama. May Milk's story be a reminder to us all that it is all about what one person can do, it is all about hope.

21 July 2009

Something to think about

A friend has this as her facebook status. It made me think, and hopefully it will make you think too.

"If I turned around every time somebody called me a faggot, I'd be walking backward - and I don't want to walk backward." Harvey Milk

14 July 2009

Fellow RI Bloggers

Since, I've shown that I'm not the best at blogging everyday (going to try really hard from now on by the way) here are links to a couple of other Rhode Islanders who are blogging here from General Convention.

Deputy Gunn is continuing to post on his blog Seven Whole Days.

Deputy Locke is reporting back to St. Paul's Pawtucket via our parish blog St. Paul's Reflections.

I highly recommend both blogs, along with this one, to your daily reading and enjoyment for the update on what's happening here in Anaheim and once we have returned home to carry on the work of the Church.

A little bit of media coverage

Here are a couple of articles I came across this morning on the work towards full inclusion that is going on here in Anaheim.


USA Today



NY Times

Full Inclusion

Here in Anaheim, the Episcopal Church is doing great things. We are striving to offer all the sacraments for all the baptized. Sunday the House of Deputies passed resolution D025 and the House of Bishops passed it Monday with Amendment so it comes back to the Deputies one last time. D025 is in my humble opinion the best resolution we have been presented to get us beyond B033. Deputy Snow does it again!

Yesterday, the House of Deputies dealt with resolution C061. We'll find out the vote this morning. Check out my testimony elsewhere on this blog to get a little bit of my take on this resolution.

Coming soon to the House of Deputies is resolution D012 on transgender civil rights that I wrote with Massachusetts Deputy Byron Rushing and California Deputy Sarah Lawton. There is a resolution on fully inclusive ENDA, inclusive language on church paper work, same-sex blessings and marriages, there is a resolution on non-discrimination of lay employment, and I'm sure there's more I'm forgetting.

It brings great joy to my heart to be able to sit on the floor of the House of Deputies and work in a very real way for the Church to stand up for me, to tell me I'm not a second class citizen, to tell me that I am a child of God and loved. More news to come . . .

Resolution C061

Here is the text of the Resolution I testified to yesterday.

Resolved, the House of _______ concurring, That Title III, Canon 1, Sec. 2 of the Canons of the Episcopal Church is hereby amended to read as follows: all baptized persons shall have full access to the discernment process for any ministry, lay or ordained in this church, except as otherwise provided by these canons. No person shall e denied access or have their discernment process terminated because of race, color, ethnic origin, national origin, sex, marital status, sexual orientation, gender identity or gender expression, disabilities or age, except as otherwise provided by these Canons. No right to licensing, ordination, or election is hereby established.

C061 Testimony

So I've been really bad about posting about what has been going on. I'm hoping to catch up in the morning, but for now here is my testimony to resolution C061 - resolution to add gender identity and gender expression to the Church's ministry canon (III.1.2).

Deputy Tavolaro, Rhode Island.

I am 19 years old, and active member of this Church, and I identify as Transgender. For me that means I am biologically female, but I live and identify as male. I know for most of you this is a new topic and while this is the second General Convention to deal with Transgender issues, I believe it is the first time this issue has come to the floor of our house.

Gender identity and gender expression are not the same as sexual orientation. Gender identity refers to who you are, while sexual orientation refers to whom you love.

Transgender people - whether known or unknown - serve in various capacities both lay and ordained within the Church. As a Church when we fail to recognize the humanity of all people we fail to proclaim the Gospel, we fail to live out our Baptismal Covenant, we fail to respect the dignity of every human being. many of my Transgender siblings have been explicitly rejected in their Church homes when their chosen names and pronouns are not used.

I love this Church with all my heart and soul, by adding Gender Identity and Gender Expression to our ministry canon it will serve as a beacon of hope - for myself, the trans community, and all people who wonder whether they are truly welcome in this Church.

10 July 2009

Day 2: July 9

Yesterday was crazy. It started bright an early with a 7am hearing for committee 9 - National and International Concern. The TransEpiscopal folks were there to discuss two resolutions - D012 (the resolution I helped write on Transgender Civil Rights) and a resolution on a fully inclusive ENDA (Employment Non-discrimination Act). I didn't write out what I said, but it must have been ok since several people including Louie Crew and Bishop Tom Shaw came up to me after to tell me what a good job I did. We are very, very hopeful for resolution D012. I'm pretty sure it is going to get out of committee and we'll hear it on the floor of the house.

Then it was back to the room for breakfast and then off to the Public Narrative Project. Despite being very unhappy about it, I went. I told my story of self. The story I choose was about testifying at Committee 8 and my fears and reservations around that. The group thought I did such a great job that they nominated me to be the one recommended from our group to do something - honestly it was to early to remember.

After that it was off to worship. I recommend reading Scott Gunn's piece over at Seven Whole Days to read more on that. I think he is spot on.

After worship was lunch, which I did brown bag style at a Chicago Consultation speakers presentation which was great. Hopefully more on that later.

Then listened to a good portion of the Marriage Equality hearing while working on one final trans resolution to submit by 5pm that afternoon.

Ran around to get my resolution in and then off to the legislative session for the day. I can't say more than that, because I will get to frustrated with those voting doohickeys.

Dinner was great. Then the B033 hearings and bed. Another long day!

Committee 8 Testimony

Deputy Tavolaro Diocese of Rhode Island

Earlier this evening, the House of Deputies adopted resolution D027 Mission Strategy: Five Marks of Mission. Within these five marks includes the following "to respond to human need by loving service" and "to seek to transform unjust structures of society." The adoption of resolution C001 would begin the church's work in fulfilling these five marks of mission. Transgender people are an incredibly vulnerable population within the Church and the society at large. Only 13 states and Washington D.C. include gender identity and gender expression in their civil non-discrimination policies. By including gender identity and expression in out church canon we will be witnessing not only to the Transgender population but also to the whole of society. We will begin to heal wounds of those we have excluded and we will be a church that welcomes all. This resolution does not ask The Episcopal Church to become experts on Transgender issues. This resolution asks the Church to include all God's children. I urge you to recommend to adopt C001. Thank you.

Day 1: July 8

I must say it was a bit daunting to be on the Floor of the House of Deputies. Most of our first sessions was a lot of ritual. But, all and all still pretty cool. Most of my day spent following committees, going to legislative sessions of the House of Deputies and going to committee hearings. It seems as if it was so long ago, but in reality it was two days ago. I did however testify at a hearing for committee #8 (World Mission) on canonical changes to include gender identity and expression to Canon III.1.2. This at it's surface is no different than the rallies and whatnot I've spoken at back in Rhode Island. However there is one detail of this committee that is a bit more . . . scary. Bishop Wolf - my Diocesan Bishop - is the Bishop Chair of committee 8. I'm sure, just like I always do, I was stressed and worried for no reason. I'll keep posting the status of resolutions. Check out the next post for my testimony.

08 July 2009

Blogging Ubuntu Style

Here is my plan for blogging Ubuntu style 2009. Each day I will give a run down of what I've done. Hopefully that will give you a taste of the life of a deputy. Then around particular issues or events I will try to post more detailed and focused entries. Feel free to comment on anything if you have questions or want more information on something.

The day before day 1


Yesterday was an absolutely crazy day. I woke excited and ready for the day. I remembered how busy General Convention was last time around, but I had no idea what a deputy was in for.

My day started yesterday morning at about 6:45. I woke up, got ready, had breakfast, and made my way over to the convention center for New Deputy Orientation. I was excited to be greeted by my fellow New Deputies from Rhode Island with the news that our orientation had been canceled. We were all extremely elated. Orientation was supposed to take place form 8 - 12. So instead I enjoyed a little sun standing outside the convention center and then went to committee hearings. Unlike the rest of my deputation, I'm floating around and not focusing on one particular committee. As a result of my work with TransEpiscopal and Integrity I'm following several of the LGBT issues. I spent a little bit of time in committee 9 (National and International Concerns) and then the majority of the 8 - 12 slot at committee 8 (World Missions). I'll post more on committees later. I grabbed a quick bit to eat in the exhibit hall and then made my way to the Program, Budget, and Finance budget priorities hearing. I got there about five minutes late and was standing in the doorway. I didn't end up staying long, because I couldn't really hear anything. I walked about the exhibit hall for about fifteen minutes and then at 2pm I made my way over to the worship space where the PB/PHOD (Presiding Bishop and the President of the House of Deputies) were addressing us. Then we had an introduction to the public narrative project (definitely more on this later). After that it was dinner at IHop, and interview for IntegriTV, some time in the deputation hospitality room, then back to my room with some RI folks to watch Disney's fireworks from my balcony. At 10pm I made my way over to the Courtyard Marriott for the Integrity daily briefing and our first meeting of the TransEpiscopal General Convention team. I made it back to my room just after midnight. So I guess you can say that it was a busy day. The craziest part about it . . . the convention had even started yet.

A Story of Ubuntu


Right before I left to come out to General Convention I was sitting at 3 Sisters - a local coffee place that I tend to frequent - and I got a call from a priest in my diocese. She wanted to wish me well on my journey to General Convention and tell me a story of her son. Knowing her son, as she told me the story I became so incredibly proud.

Her son is about 14 and for the past academic year attended a Roman Catholic school. He tried to be part of getting a GSA (Gay Straight Alliance) started at his school. He doesn't identify as gay, but is a wonderful ally. As soon as he started working, he started getting picked on. He started to face the same homophobia that so many of us in the LGBT community faced in high school. He picked up a cross that didn't have to be his own. He feels that there is nothing wrong with being LGBT, and feels that it is incredibly unjust that LGBT people have to face the things they do. At the end of the school year he, his parents, and some administrators form the school met to talk about all the crap he was taking during the year. They were working on giving him the tools to stand up for himself. He's now - if I remember correctly - off to another school and looks like he will continue his fight there.

There have been two phrases I've heard church leadership use to describe Ubuntu - this Convention's theme. "I in you and you in me" and "I am because you are". This young boy picked up this fight, made it part of him, because of what so many of us have faced and will continue to face.

I left for convention two days later holding this story in my heart. I left with with a real life example of Ubuntu.

General Convention




Hello All!

I'm here at General Convention just arrived in my hotel room for the evening after the first of many long days. On this eve of the first legislative day, I promise that tomorrow will bring several blog posts about some thoughts and such about the past day and the days ahead. For now I'm taking a point of personal privilege and catching some shut eye so I can serve my best during out first legislative session tomorrow!

11 June 2009

Baptismal Covenant



Check out this Wordle of the Baptismal Covenant. Thanks Scott for the idea.

View this wordle online here or make your own here. If you make your own make sure to post a link and share it here!

Cell phones in Church



Thanks Scott for this gem. Maybe this is a way to raise some money for the church?

08 April 2009

Why churches should avoid technology!


Thanks Joan for the great laugh!

28 March 2009

And so it begins

The Blue Book - this year with the red cover - is no available online.

24 March 2009

Prayer

So this year for Lent, I didn't give anything up. Instead I added something - prayer. Instead of watching that extra 20 minutes of TV at night I might say Compline, or when I'm up early I might read something from scripture instead of going on facebook. I found this Father Matthew video this morning. It's a great spotlight on my favorite form of prayer - the Daily Office.

23 March 2009

The joys of YouTube

So i was searching YouTube trying to destress and I came across this video. Enjoy!

01 March 2009

ABC on Lent

Here is another lovely video from the offfice of the ABC. It is a lovely reflection on Lent, and is worth the four minutes of your time.



Thanks Scott for being on top of the media coming from Cantuar.

27 February 2009

Hate the sin, love the sinner

Glad to hear I'm not the only one who hates this saying!



Thanks Fr. Matthew for all these great videos!

Gay Scientists Isolate Christian Gene

One word: hysterical!



Thanks Clare for this!

Same-sex marriage in RI

Currently Rhode Island is debating same-sex marriage. As you all know, I am a supporter for same-sex marriage in Rhode Island. I've posted my MERI Speech and other comments on the issue over time. I've also spent a great deal of time on this blog - and in the world in general - talking about how wonderfully supportive I find many of the clergy in my diocese and my parish. There is one priest here in RI who I fequently borrow stories from. Scott Gunn+, Priest-in-chagre Christ Church Lincoln and author of Seven Whole Days is on of the clergy who has been tremendously supportive. Today Scott proved again what a great ally he is to LGBTQQ people. Copied below is a letter he posted on his blog that he sent to several RI Senators. For those of you who feel so moved, I strongly encourage you to add your voice to Scott's and so many others in this fight for equality. If you do write, and don't mind sharing, please send me a copy of your letter as I would love to post it here. I'm hoping to write my own letter this afternoon - which I will of course post for your reading.

To:sen-perry@rilin.state.ri.us, sen-blais@rilin.state.ri.us, sen-goodwin@rilin.state.ri.us, sen-jabour@rilin.state.ri.us, sen-levesque@rilin.state.ri.us, sen-lynch@rilin.state.ri.us, sen-maselli@rilin.state.ri.us, sen-mcburney@rilin.state.ri.us, sen-mccaffrey@rilin.state.ri.us, sen-metts@rilin.state.ri.us, sen-weed@rilin.state.ri.us, sen-connors@rilin.state.ri.us

Dear Senators,

I am an Episcopal priest serving at Christ Church in Lincoln. I am writing to urge your support and passage of S-0147, enabling same-sex marriage in Rhode Island.

As a religious leader, I view marriage as a sacred covenant between two people before God, in which their mutual love is manifest. In the Episcopal Church’s Book of Common Prayer, the first purpose of marriage is described as “for their mutual joy.” Two men or two women who share a committed relationship should be able to enjoy the same protections and benefits that I enjoy in my marriage of sixteen years to a wonderful woman.

From the news coverage, it seems that religious objections are foremost among those who resist passage of this bill. Proponents of a same-sex marriage ban cite “biblical marriage” or “freedom of religion” in their statements. Firstly, the Bible is hardly supportive of marriage as it is now understood in this country. In the Old Testament, women were viewed as property to be exchanged among men, and there is no sense of mutuality in marriage. Polygamy is normative in the Old Testament; concubines are acceptable. In the New Testament, St. Paul is skeptical of marriage — suggesting that it is better to be unmarried. Jesus himself says nothing about marriage, other than to insist that divorce is to be avoided when possible, because of the consequences to women in ancient Palestinian culture. In other words, there simply is no biblical justification that applies in this matter.

In terms of religious freedom, the bill specifically prevents any minister or church from being compelled to perform marriage. This is unchanged from the current law, secular and religious. When I meet with couples who seek marriage, I am currently allowed to refuse to marry them for any reason or for no reason. Under S-0147, this will not change. In other words, the bill preserves the same freedom of religious exercise that we now enjoy.

Why do I support same-sex marriage? I believe that in our culture of self-interest, we should support any strengthening and broadening of an institution which will encourage people to make familial commitments. If two men or two women love each other, our whole society benefits from their mutual promise to support one another and, when it is God’s will, to raise children in a loving home.

There are practical reasons to support passage of this bill — healthcare decisions, access to hospitals for visits, property inheritance, and arrangements at the time of death. But these practical matters are less important to me, and I suspect to those who would seek marriage. Most important is the ability for everyone to enjoy the same things that I enjoy — the institution of marrage, in which mutual love and support is expressed and manifest.

I hope you pass this bill. In Massachusetts, once they had access to same-sex marriage, we have not seen walls crumble or people swallowed up by the earth. Rather, we have seen ordinary people able to enjoy ordinary marriage and extraordinary love and support for one another.

My contact information is below. I would be pleased to speak with anyone about my support of this bill as a religious leader.

Peace,
Scott+



For more information please check out Marriage Equality RI.

The Observance of a Holy Lent

School has been crazy the past couple of days and has kept me form may things one being blogging. On Ash Wednesday I spent a lot of time listening to, rereading, and thinking about the invitation to observe a holy Lent. As we begin this Lenten journey, I invite you to take some time and reread this (or read it for a first time) and allow yourself to enter a time of "self-examination repentance; by prayer, fasting, and self-denial."

Dear People of God: This first Christians observed with great devotion the days of our Lord's passion and resurrection, and it became the custom of the Church to prepare for them by a season of penitence and fasting. This season of Lent provided a time in which converts to the faith were prepared for Holy Baptism. It was also a time when those who, because of notorious sins, had been separated from the body of the faithful were reconciled by penitence and forgiveness, and restored to the fellowship of the Church. Thereby, the whole congregation was put in mind of the message of pardon and absolution set fourth in the Gospel of our Savior, and of the need which all Christians continually have to renew their repentance and faith.

I invite you, therefore, in the name of the Church, to the observance of a holy Lent, by self-examination and repentance; by prayer, fasting, and self-denial; and by reading and meditating on God holy Word. And, to make a right beginning of repentance, and as a mark of our mortal nature, let us now kneel before the Lord, our maker and redeemer. BCP 264-265


I wish you all a blessed and holy Lent.

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Thanks goes out to Scott for this one.

24 February 2009

The Solemn Procession of the Pancake

I am a fan of liturgy. As a liturgogeek I enjoy reading and participating in various forms of liturgy. Rite I, Rite II, even EOW I love it all. I first heard about the Solemn Procession of the Pancake at the Shorve Tuesday Pancake Supper at St. Paul's Church last year. I wish that we would use this wonderful Solemn Procession at St. Paul's. Here it is - copied below - for your own enjoyment. Happy Shorve Tuesday to all!

Info copied from Shrove Tuesday Traditions and Liturgies.
Pancake Procession for Shrove Tuesday

Thanks to Inari Thiel, who manages her files better than I manage mine, I may now post this important liturgical note. The carefully researched material on the pancake restaurant contingency first appeared on the ANGLICAN list. The author, Scott Knitter, a fine Anglican although a Michigander, places the material before the reader assuming a knowledge of the basic Pancake Procession. I am mindful that there are those on this list without that background, hence a few words may not be amiss.

There are those who argue that the Pancake Procession must take place before, and only before, the feast itself. The liturgical argument here is that just as the solemn procession comes before the sacred meal in Eucharist, so it should on Shrove Tuesday. There is also the pragmatic argument that no one is in any shape to process after consuming great quantities of pancakes, butter and syrup. Others argue, just a vehemently, that the procession must take place after, and only after the feast. The arguments here are a bit difficult to follow, and one suspects that it really comes down to a fear that the Pancakes will get cold if carried about in procession rather than plunked right on the table for immediate consumption.

We do not wish to become embroiled in debate over this sensitive issue. Suffice it to say that all known liturgical materials (from the Roman "Sacramentary" to the "Book of How Things 'Sposed To Be" of the Agabeg Occult Church of the Overcoming of the Holy Spirit) agree on the order of the procession, the materials to be carried, and by whom, and the route of the procession.

A thurifer leads the procession. Two bacon strips are draped over the thurible. At the beginning of the procession, the celebrant places the two bacon strips over the thurible saying, "Blessed is He in whose humour you are to be burnt."

Following the thurifer is the forkifer bearing the giant likeness of a fork, and flanked by two lightbearers.

Following the forkifer and lightbearers (logic would dictate that they be called "lucifers") are the various ranks of lay ministers, up to but not including the sub-deacon. The verger follows the forkifer and lucifers, but slightly to the side so as to be on the lookout for pancake establishments (see Knitter's notes below). The two senior acolytes are the last in the procession of lay ministers and carry the pancakes upon a platter.

The celebrant, flanked by the deacon and sub-deacon, carries the pitcher, which should be of sufficient size and decoration as befits the dignity of the occasion.

The procession walks the precincts of the parish.

Gregory Holmes Singleton, R.O.C.

Procession 2


Pancake Procession for Shrove Tuesday

The Shrove Tuesday Pancake Procession is a unique East Lansing tradition that dates back to the late 19th century, when Michigan Agricultural College (now Michigan State University) was growing, causing the settlement of faculty, staff, and students in the new town of Collegeville, adjacent to the north end of the university grounds.

The procession is now based at All Saints Episcopal Church in the historic Bailey neighbourhood seven blocks north of the student union.

Following the Shrove Tuesday Solemn Evensong, the solemn procession forms at the head of the aisle, and the sacred ministers are supplied with their birettas. The celebrant also receives a large platter of steaming-hot buttermilk pancakes; the deacon and subdeacon take up large pitchers of Michigan maple syrup. Acolytes with large forks and spatulas attend the sacred ministers. Following the deacon's versicle and the people's response, the thurifer leads the procession through the nave and narthex and down the steps to the undercroft, where a station is made at the kitchen. The choir accompany the procession with appropriate antiphons, responsories, and plainsong hymns, such as the Corpus Christi introit, Cibavit eos: "He fed them also with the finest wheat flour, and with honey from the rock." Naturally, in the early days of the procession's history, these words were taken quite literally, and the pancakes were made of whole wheat and served with pure Michigan honey. Tastes these days being what they are, adjustments have been made, but the symbolism still obtains.

After the station at the kitchen door, the procession moves back upstairs to the Grove Street entrance and turns left, encircling the Unitarian-Universalist Church of Greater Lansing, next door, as a gesture of hospitality and ecumenism. Traditionally, the UU minister joins the procession dressed in a simple cassock-alb and bearing a large bowl of flower petals gathered by UU parishioners; these are added to the pancake plates as a lovely garnish and a reminder of the oneness of creation with Creator. (A secondary but salutary effect of the procession in the early years was the reconciliation of the neighboring Episcopal and UU churches following the previous year's Trinity Sunday outdoor solemn procession, which had encircled the UU church three times to the increasing outrage of the UU minister and congregation. The Trinity procession route was subsequently changed to encircle the historic Beaumont Tower on the university campus, during which the university carillonneur traditionally performs Anglican hymns in 3/8 or 3/4 meter, ending with three sets of three tolls on the three largest bells).

The procession moves south from the UU church down Grove Street past the rectory, where a station is made and the antiphon Sacerdotes Domini chanted, and then past the first block of fraternity houses, where students have been lining the streets to depths of four and five persons since before noon. By now the pancake plates and syrup pitchers have been replenished by the vergers from supplies driven ahead of the procession by the sextons. The students wear no particular traditional garb when they are served the pancakes, except that shirts and shoes are required in addition to the usual shorts or jeans. Hats are expected to be removed while the pancake platter is in one's block of residence.

The procession then makes a one-block turn to the west and then heads south on Abbott Road, the main street into the university and the location of City Hall and further blocks of fraternities and sororities. The culmination of the procession is the arrival at the West Circle Halls of Residence, a lovely group of three-storey Tudor-style halls, each with a large dining-room. On this night alone out of all the nights of the year, the dining-rooms are closed in observance of the solemn pancake procession. The waiting students are served efficiently as the procession reaches the university test kitchen at Williams Hall, where nutritionists receive samples of the pancakes for chemical analysis and testing and the eventual assignment of a rating for that year's batch. Finally, having given up the pancake-serving utensils, the sacred ministers, vergers, acolytes, and servers proceed to the Alumni Memorial Chapel not on foot, but on the Sigma Chi homecoming float flatbed, its permanently installed Liberty Bell replica ringing all the way, and all enter the chapel for the Solemn Te Deum and Benediction.

17 February 2009

LGBT Awareness in church

As some of you know, I do a lot of work with Youth Pride Inc. here in RI. I'm part of the OUTSpoken program and we go out and run trainings and promote awareness on LGBT issues. I working on putting together a program to present to Churches in the Diocese of RI. We are looking at a clergy training, and also individual parish trainings. So I ask all of you. If Youth Pride was to come to your church, what would you like to hear? If you are a clergy person what would you like to learn to bring back to your parish? Lay people, what would you like your clergy to know? And whatever other combination you can think of!

15 February 2009

Everyone has secrets

This was posted on a blog for a class I'm in at RIC. Being a trans person, watching this video made me cry. Tonight - as is everyday - my prayer and hope is that one day I won't be forced to feel ashamed of who I am because it isn't ok with others. I give thanks for all of you who have been so supportive, my gratitude could never be expressed in words. Just know that I love you.



Thanks for passing this along C. Thanks for the reminder that we're not alone.

13 February 2009

My Speech

Here is a copy of the speech I gave at the MERI Rally last night. Thanks for all the well wishes and prayers. I meant a lot!

My name is Dee Tavolaro, I’m 19 years old, a Sophomore at Rhode Island College, and have been involved at Youth Pride Inc. for almost a year. Being at Youth Pride has forced me to examine my beliefs, to challenge them, and to grow. The issue I’ve spent the most time struggling with is marriage.
Like so many other young people, I spend a lot of time thinking about the future: the teaching job I’ll get, the community outreach I’ll do, the church ministry I’ll have. I can’t wait to do all of these things here in Rhode Island. But then I think of the fact that I can’t get married here and how I’d have to move to Massachusetts or Connecticut in order to have equal rights. I think about my friends and the two beautiful girls they’ve adopted, and how this lack of rights sends them a message that their family isn’t good enough: that they don’t count.
The most important part of my life is my work and ministry within my church. My church is a place where I can go and be open and honest about who I am. It is a place where I can be loved and supported one hundred percent. It’s mind boggling how I can have such love and support there, but when I step outside that building I loose those feelings and am treated as something less: as second class.
I’ve heard the argument made that, “gays shouldn’t get married because marriage is a sacrament.” As any good church geek can tell you, and I consider myself part of that group, a sacrament is an outward and visible sign of an inward and spiritual grace. I look at my friends and their girls and wonder how anyone can fail to see the grace in that.
I’ve also heard some conservatives argue that we should keep traditional marriage: that we should keep marriage biblical. However, I don’t think they remember what biblical marriage really means. It isn’t one man, one woman, and a suburban home with a white picket fence. It is one man and as many women as he could get his hands on. Now I’m not asking for five or six wives, I just want one! One woman to love, marry and raise a family. Thank you.

12 February 2009

MERI Rally

Hey everybody!!

If you're free at 5pm tonight you should come to the RI State House for the MERI (Marriage Equality RI) Rally. I'm one of the speakers, so come on out and show your support!!

10 February 2009

Freedom To Marry

So for the next few days I'm hoping to get more information and stories up here about Freedom to Marry Week 2009.

join the conversation


Marriage Equality is something that we all should be fighting for. If you're in Mass of CT don't think that your rights are safe. We all saw what happened in California. Fight with me to help get my rights and the rights of all other people. Your rights aren't safe until mine are.

Here is the schedule for the week. All information can be found here.

Sunday, February 8th: YouTube Challenge

Submit a video to our YouTube Challenge for a chance to win cash prizes.

Monday, February 9th: Make Your Voice Heard

Add your face and voice to the conversation. Create a blog post, vlog, comment on our blog, change your status on facebook, or change your picture on social networks.

Tuesday, February 10th: Email for Equality

Sign the marriage resolution and email it to friends. Support your state’s equality organization and sign and circulate their petitions too!

Wednesday, February 11th: Button Up for Equality

Sign up to receive a button to wear or put our html button on your website, blog, or social networking page.

Thursday, February 12th: Face to Face to Equality

Have a face to face conversation by attending or hosting an event. Tell us about any events happening during the week, and we’ll post them.

Friday, February 13th: Txt 4 Equality

Receive a text or tweet about why marriage matters and forward on to friends.

Saturday, February 14th: Get Local With It

Write a letter to the editor of your local newspaper.

06 February 2009

IAT - Implicit Association Test


For my foundations class with Dr. August, we had to take the IAT - Implicit Association Test. It's a test that checks for hidden bias. The tests and its results sparked a lot of conversation in our class. I recommend that you go to the link below and take the test. For my class we only had to take the Race Test, but try the Gender Test out as well. When you're done let me know what you thought.

Take the test here.

31 January 2009

Fr. Matthew speaks to Houston!

At the end of September, Young Adults from around the church gathered in Houston, TX for A Brand New Way. It was a great conference! Here is a video that Fr. Matthew created for us on Evangelism.



I found it over at this great new blog, St. Paul's Reflections.

What's in, What's out!

So I signed into AOL this evening and came across this. I enjoyed it and hope you will too.

Check it out here

28 January 2009

Holocaust Memorial Day

Below are two videos that the Archbishop of Canterbury posted on Holocaust Memorial Day. He asks us to "rediscover the depths of real humanity". I'm constantly amazed at how people have treated each other over the centuries. We've been horrible to each other. I wonder what it would be like if we took the Archbishop's advice and "rediscover the depths of real humanity".

This is a "Message for Holocaust Memorial Day"


The following are "Reflections on Auschwitz"


If you are interested in seeing more video from The Archbishop visit his YouTube page.

27 January 2009

EfM Reflections

So below is a copy of something I wrote in response to Parallel Guide 19 in EfM year one. I may be totally out of it, but this is what I thought of. Let me know what you think.

Year One read about Judges. We read about how the people of Isreal entered into a cycle. During a time when a judge was in place, they followed God's commandments. When the judge was no longer around the people would fall and return to worshipping the Baals. This led the reading to discuss the fourfold pattern: sin > punishment > repentance > deliverance and the back to sin again. It was this pattern that was on my mind while watching the Rob Bell video "Dust".

In the video Bell discusses what a disciple is. He talks about the schooling that children at the time of Jesus could have done. The first - until about the age of ten - focused the children on the Torah, and more specifically memorizing it. By the end of that, most students had gone on to learn their family trade. For the best of the best they moved on to the next step and memorized the rest of Hebrew Scriptures. By the end of that most children had moved on to their family trade. This was at about 15 years of age. But, the best of the best of the best applied to be disciples of a rabbi. The rabbi would test the kid, really grill them to see if they knew their stuff. More often than not the rabbi would tell the student to continue learning their family trade. But, if the rabbi thought the kid had really got it, the kid would leave everything and follow the rabbi. They would learn to do what the rabbi does - to become like the rabbi.

James and John, disciples of Jesus, were fishing when Jesus called them. That meant that they weren't the best of the best. They were the B-team, the JV. Jesus doesn't call the best of the best, Jesus calls all of us, the B-team, the JV, the anybodies. What made the people of Israel so special? Could they have been just another group of people? A group of anybodies? The B-Team?

A continuing theme in year one has been that God calls us through no big achievement of our own. From that it shows that God believes in us. I think that is part of the reason He doesn't give up on us. Why that fourfold pattern keeps continuing.

The other point I got out of Rob Bell video comes out of the Story of jesus walking on the water. Jesus is walking on the water and calls Peter to come to Him. Peter tkes one or two steps and sinks. Jesus saves him and says, "You of little faith. But who did Peter not have faith in? Jesus wasn't sinking. Peter didn't have faith in himself.

Maybe that was part of Israel's problem. They didn't have enough faith in themselves to continue on without their judge.

I wonder how are like the people of Israel. It seems to me that when things are going well, and when we have good leadership we have faith in ourselves - we continue in the work God calls us to. But, when things get hard, when we loose our leaders how easy is it to give up, to loose faith, and stop - or step back - in the ministry we are called to.

19 January 2009

Some thoughts on history

As you are all well aware we are on the eve of history. Tomorrow the first African-American president will take his oath of office. How fitting that this historic event happens the day after Martin Luther King Jr. Day. Could Dr. King ever have imagine that a short 45 years after his "I have a dream" speech that the leader of the free world would be black. No matter where you stand on the political issues, I think we can all be thankful and rejoice in the fact that a nation built on slavery has made such a major step towards equality.

This is the beginning of a new era, hopefully it will be a time when America will take seriously the words of the Declaration of Independence and strive to fulfill them. "We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness."

In my parish we have spent a lot of time discussing MLK and Obama, and what all of this means for us. We've renewed our Baptismal covenant vowing to strive for justice and peace among all people, and respect the dignity of every human being. We've heard sermons on how we are all one and need to work together to tear down the walls that divide us: race, sexual orientation, gender, gender identity and expression, religion, and so many other things.

Last night The Rt. Rev'd V. Gene Robinson, Bishop of the Episcopal Diocese of New Hampshire (the first openly gay bishop in the Episcopal Church) offered the invocation at the inauguration ceremony. In it he asked God to bless us with anger: "Bless us with anger – at discrimination, at home and abroad, against refugees and immigrants, women, people of color, gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people."

May we all stand with our President-Elect (soon to be President) are work of equality for all. May we strive for the dignity and respect of every human being. May we stand up and be angry at discrimination. May we do this as one because "There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female."
We can't give up, we must stand strong because your rights are not safe until my rights are safe and my rights are not safe until your rights are safe.

May this day be a reminder for us all of all the people who have come before us - those people on whose shoulders we stand continuing to fight for justice, peace, and equality. May tomorrow be a day of hope, a new page in the history of our country, and a step closer to fulfilling the dream of our founders and MLK.


Posted here below is the complete invocation offered by Bishop Robinson:

"A Prayer for the Nation and Our Next President, Barack Obama"
By The Rt. Rev. V. Gene Robinson, Episcopal Bishop of New Hampshire

Welcome to Washington! The fun is about to begin, but first, please join me in pausing for a moment, to ask God’s blessing upon our nation and our next president.

O God of our many understandings, we pray that you will…

Bless us with tears – for a world in which over a billion people exist on less than a dollar a day, where young women from many lands are beaten and raped for wanting an education, and thousands die daily from malnutrition, malaria, and AIDS.

Bless us with anger – at discrimination, at home and abroad, against refugees and immigrants, women, people of color, gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people.

Bless us with discomfort – at the easy, simplistic “answers” we’ve preferred to hear from our politicians, instead of the truth, about ourselves and the world, which we need to face if we are going to rise to the challenges of the future.

Bless us with patience – and the knowledge that none of what ails us will be “fixed” anytime soon, and the understanding that our new president is a human being, not a messiah.

Bless us with humility – open to understanding that our own needs must always be balanced with those of the world.

Bless us with freedom from mere tolerance – replacing it with a genuine respect and warm embrace of our differences, and an understanding that in our diversity, we are stronger.

Bless us with compassion and generosity – remembering that every religion’s God judges us by the way we care for the most vulnerable in the human community, whether across town or across the world.

And God, we give you thanks for your child Barack, as he assumes the office of President of the United States.

Give him wisdom beyond his years, and inspire him with Lincoln’s reconciling leadership style, President Kennedy’s ability to enlist our best efforts, and Dr. King’s dream of a nation for ALL the people.

Give him a quiet heart, for our Ship of State needs a steady, calm captain in these times.

Give him stirring words, for we will need to be inspired and motivated to make the personal and common sacrifices necessary to facing the challenges ahead.

Make him color-blind, reminding him of his own words that under his leadership, there will be neither red nor blue states, but the United States.

Help him remember his own oppression as a minority, drawing on that experience of discrimination, that he might seek to change the lives of those who are still its victims.

Give him the strength to find family time and privacy, and help him remember that even though he is president, a father only gets one shot at his daughters’ childhoods.

And please, God, keep him safe. We know we ask too much of our presidents, and we’re asking FAR too much of this one. We know the risk he and his wife are taking for all of us, and we implore you, O good and great God, to keep him safe. Hold him in the palm of your hand – that he might do the work we have called him to do, that he might find joy in this impossible calling, and that in the end, he might lead us as a nation to a place of integrity, prosperity and peace.

AMEN.

Practical Advice for Young People Thinking About Ordination in The Episcopal Church

So I was cleaning out my desk the other day and came across this article called "Practical Advice for Young People Thinking About Ordination in The Episcopal Church". The article was written by The Right Reverend Dean E. Wolfe as part of his presentation to the Pathways for Ministry High School Conference held in April, 2006.

1. Attend an Episcopal Church and be active in worship. (This may seem obvious, but every now and then I speak with someone who thinks they may want to be a deacon or priest but who doesn't attend worship regularly or participate as an active part of an Episcopal faith community!)

2. Watch a variety of clergy. Find ways to work with them and assist them in their ministry so you can learn what they do. Notice both their giftedness and their failings. (God doesn't seem to call perfect people to Holy Orders.)

3. Read widely. History, Literature, the Bible, Poetry, Drama, Biography, Philosophy, Art, Science, Theology are all useful subjects. All human knowledge is ultimately connected to The Holy. Nothing you ever learn in any other field will be wasted in ordained ministry. (Knowledge of Computer Sciences, Teaching, Accounting, Marketing, Law, Medicine, even Concrete Testing . . . can all be effectively utilized in the service of the Church.)

4. Assert your Baptismal right to do ministry now! Look around your parish and decide what's being done poorly or, worse, not being done at all . . . an then do something about it! Be a Christian Activist. You don't need to wait until you are older.

5. Learn how to pry. Develop a comfortable, real, on-going conversational life with God. Talk to God about everything, including your future vocational plans.

6. Develop a variety of useful skills. Learn a foreign language. Learn how to write. Learn how to speak in public. Learn how to be helpful to people of all ages. Learn how to get something new started. Learn how to listen to people who are in trouble. Learn how to meet new people. Learn how to be helpful in crisis.

7. Develop healthy habits. Exercise, eat right, respect yourself as a part of God's Creation, live a balanced life, use good judgment in relationships, keep your word, develop good friends, participate in sports and hobbies which stretch you in some way.

8. Try being in charge. Learning how to be an effective leader is crucial for ordained clergy. In order to be in charge, you must learn to work collaboratively with a wide variety of people. Run for class office, be a leader on your team, lead extra-curricular activities at school, participate in leading a wide variety of events and activities.

9. Develop a healthy sense of humor. Clergy work closely with people who are going through times of great joy and great pain. Having a good sense of humor makes the difficult times more bearable. Learn to be positive and embrace joy.

10. Cultivate Tenacity. Christian ministry is hard and lots of people, both lay and ordained, just plain quit. Work on sticking difficult things out. Test your endurance. Try difficult things. Develop resilience. Get in shape emotionally, physically, and spiritually, "to run the race that has been set before us."

The Rt. Rev'd Dean Wolfe serves as Ninth Bishop of The Episcopal Diocese of Kansas. Consecrated bishop in 2003, Bishop Wolfe was formerly Vice Rector of Saint Michael and All Angels Church in Dallas, Texas. (The church where the conference was held at.)

16 January 2009

Rev. vs. Rev'd

So I recently noticed that my parish has started using Rev'd instead of Rev. I got into a conversation with someone about it and the differences of the two. I decided to dig up this old email form a friend that explains why we should be using Rev'd instead of Rev.

Here are the key differences:

Who uses it?
Rev. = Baptists
Rev'd = Anglicans

More specifically, who uses it?
Rev. = Pat Robertson
Rev'd = Rowan Williams

Which one looks good?
Rev. = tacky abbreviation
Rev'd = classy contraction

What about parishes in RI?
Rev. = clueless
Rev'd = cluetrain

How does it make God feel?
Rev. = sad
Rev'd = happy


Thanks SG+

14 January 2009

New Blog Link

So very excited to announce that St. Paul's has a blog. It can be found here.